Scriptures Against Suicide


my_head_dark_space_300-webSTOP, DON’T DO IT! Take hope! You have options that you cannot see right now! It is not that you do not have options, it is just that you cannot see them. Evil forces cloud our minds from seeing the hope of a better day. It is coming.

You have good options, you just can’t see them now.

Only the word of God can strip away the darkness so that we can see the brightness. You are in the dark simply because you cannot see the light. Hurt and hopelessness work together to block the light. The light is actually all around you. MAKE YOURSELF read the following scriptures, even if you feel absolutely nothing. The deadness will leave. Hope and light will seep into your heart. Do it!

Anyone who is among the living has hope. Ecclesiastes 9:4

Suicidal thoughts only survive within an outlook of complete hopelessness. Hope, true Bible hope, is the best antidote for hopelessness. Take the hope that is resident in the promises of God and put it into your heart. Your outlook will change. God has a wonderful habit of raising individuals out of impossible situations. He enjoys doing it, and it brings Him glory. The Bible is full of stories of people, just like you, that were delivered out of extremely dangerous and potentially embarrassing situations – including His own son, Jesus. You are no different. Reject the guilt and shame, and absorb His love, forgiveness, and hope. You will make it out of this situation! The darkness will not last. That is the real truth, but for it to work, you must see it as truth and believe it. This is where reading, speaking, and meditating God’s promises comes in. They will grow hope and belief in your heart. ALSO, PLEASE READ THIS – Helping Others Is God’s Prescription for Depression.

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down (depression), but a good word cheers it up. Proverbs 12:25 Holman Christian Standard Bible

Allow God’s good word to cheer you up. God’s word is the only true source of hope because it shows the will of Him who can help. Allow the hope of a good result to seep back into your heart. Suicide is the extreme dead-end of hopelessness. Allowing thoughts of hopelessness to control your thinking narrows and darkens your path till suicide appears to be the only option, BUT IT IS NOT. There are plenty of other solutions; you just can’t see them now because hopelessness has blinded you to them. The hope that is resident in the promises of God will open the eyes of your heart, and you will be able to see again. It will get brighter.

Suicide only appears like an option when the devil has hidden all your other options. Allow the Bible to open your eyes.

You will have to work at it. You will not feel like it. Do it anyway, your life depends on it, and contrary to what you are feeling, YOUR LIFE IS WORTH IT. Suicide is a permanent solution to an intense but short term problem. Don’t do it!

“Do not be a fool–why die before your time?” Ecclesiastes 7:17b

This may sound harsh but the hard truth is this – the thought to end one’s life is foolish – and once you step back and see it for what it really is, you will understand. Do not despair; it will get better. The power to deliver is resident in His word. Put it to work for you. Relax and make yourself read these scriptures and let God’s word do the rest:

You are my lamp O Lord; the Lord turns my darkness into light. 2 Samuel 22:29

But you will not need to fight! Take your places; stand quietly and see the incredible rescue operation God will perform for you, Oh people of Judah and Jerusalem! Don’t be afraid or discouraged! Go out there tomorrow, for the Lord is with you! 2 Chronicles 20:17

You have granted me life and favor, and Your care has preserved my spirit. Job 10:12

I will lie down in peace and sleep, for though I am alone, Oh Lord, you will keep me safe. Psalms 4:8

For You, O Lord, will bless the righteous; with favor You will surround him as with a shield. Psalm 5:12

No one whose hope is in you will ever be put to shame. Psalm 25:3

You are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Psalm 25:5

You are my hiding place from every storm of life; You even keep me from getting into trouble! You surround me with songs of victory. I will instruct you (says the Lord) and guide you along the best pathway for your life; I will advise you and watch your progress. Don’t be like a senseless horse or mule that has to have a bit in its mouth to keep it in line! Psalms 32:7-9

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:18, 19

If the Lord delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm; though he stumbles, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand. Psalm 37:23, 24

Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. Psalm 42:5

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22

Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. Psalm 62:5

You answer us with awesome deeds of righteousness, O God our Savior, the hope of all the ends of the earth and of the farthest seas. Psalm 65:5

For you have been my hope, O Sovereign LORD, my confidence since my youth. Psalm 71:5

But as for me, I will always have hope; I will praise you more and more. Psalm 71:14

I have put my hope in your word. Psalm 119:74

Sustain me according to your promise, and I will live…. Psalm 119:116a

The LORD upholds all those who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down. Psalm 145:14

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

Surely, there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off. Proverbs 23:18

Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee: because he trusts in Thee. Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength. (Perfect means complete. If I keep my part of the promise by staying steadfastly focused on the Lord Jesus Christ, He will keep His promise to give me His perfect peace. Isaiah 26:3-4 See also Philippians 4:6-7 below)

And the ransomed of the Lord will return. They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away. Isaiah 35:10

But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

No, I will not abandon you or leave you as orphans in the storm – I will come to you. John 14:18

I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart! And the peace I give isn’t fragile like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid. John 14:27

We are saved by trusting. And trusting means looking forward to getting something we don’t yet have – for a man who already has something doesn’t need to hope and trust that he will get it. But if we must keep trusting God for something that hasn’t happened yet, it teaches us to wait patiently and confidently. Romans 8:24-25

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. Romans 15:4

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

Therefore, since we have such a hope, we are very bold. 2 Corinthians 3:12

Nevertheless God, that comforts, those that are depressed, comforted us by the coming of Titus; And not by his coming only, but by the consolation wherewith he was comforted in you, when he told us your earnest desire, your mourning, your fervent mind toward me; so that I rejoiced the more. II Corinthians 7:6-7

I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. Ephesians 1:18-19

There is one body and one Spirit – just as you were called to one hope when you were called–one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. Ephesians 4:4-6

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word. 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. Titus 3:4–7

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. James 4:10

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ form the dead. 1 Peter 1:3

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, 2 Peter 1:2–3

The Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials. 2 Peter 2:9

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Comments 156

  1. ColdandWarm

    Dear Matt, this reply is very late, but when I read over your comment a pang of realization came over me. I too was around the age of 11/12 when I started wanting to off myself. I fell into a deep depression, and started to self harm and try to drown myself. I can tell you right now, it is not worth it!!!! You can make it through and stop these awful things you are doing to yourself. No child of God should want to off themselves. I am now 13, I went from councelor to councelor trying to find help. It took quiet a while but I stopped hurting and trying to drown myself, and I am moving on from where I was two years ago. I made it through, and I know you can too. Prayer is your armour, wear it. He is always there to catch you when you fall, and you can always lay your troubles in his hands and rest in his arms!

  2. ColdandWarm

    Dear Tanith, your comment really touched me, because especially with my past with all of this and some people I care about going through this, your comment renewed some hope in me and gave me faith that people do heal from this and the Father can take them out of where they are now.

    We are Children of God, and we are made in the image of the Maker of heaven and stars, and I know it puts a smile on His face to hear you say what you said. I am sooo glad this website, and the scripture, and the one almighty Father can save you, and I wish you the best weeks and months and years to come!

  3. Tanith

    Thank you .. You and the beautiful verses above have changed my’s not what u believe before..these words have been my saviour.. I was incredibly sad but a way ward Christian and now I know that I am protected and no matter how crap I feel I felt Gods presence and his healing..I am the best example of’ screw itxall’ – is that knife sharp enough!!’ And I prayed and found this.. I don’t want to die…I asked for protection… I’ll make my birthday tomorrow with renewed thanks.. Thank you God for my gift of life.. Please help me to use it wisely…

  4. ColdandWarm

    Trish- I am a child, and I can see you love your child very much, and that means more to her or him then you can realize. I am going through the same doubts in faith at the moment, I know He’s there, but I can’t feel him. Please please please just remember that the thoughts are just in your head, and please keep fighting and hanging in there. By the way, I’m sorry I replied so late!

  5. ColdandWarm

    Biswajit- you always still have a choice. You can still stay alive. Things get better, and I cam assure you God loves you soooo much and knows all the pain you face in this world. He is on your side, you are created in his image, and no beloved child of God should off themselves. Hang in there!

  6. Sandra

    Dear Trish,

    Hi. I am a person that struggled the same sort of problem for the first half of my life. I have overcome the intrusive thoughts by using some human strategies, but I do believe that God’s power beat the bulk of it. One thing I have learned is that Satan can work on us through our emotions. We are vulnerable because human emotions can be manipulated. The key to fighting this sort of attack is to read the Bible and believe what it says no matter what your feelings or negative thoughts may be telling you. Cling to the truths you know. Believe that God loves you. Believe that He came to free the captives. Claim His promises. Have faith that it will get better because He loves you and is caring for you. Compare your situation to the situations of Bible characters. For example, Moses made a mistake and killed an Egyptian slave-driver, but God still chose him, forgave him, and made him into a most influential and loving patriarch. So what does that say about the mistakes in my life? I still have potential. I can’t see the end from the beginning like God, but I can have faith that God has my best interest at heart and will lead me and guide me with love. Praise God for the way He works in our lives! Check out my website; it has many powerful verses and I share my testimony there. It’s

  7. Biswajit das

    From my brith I always believe in God. I fight many war seems that God is in my side. But now the old situation change. I can not rejist more. And God do not listen my prayer. So there is no hope now. I must suicide. Please pray for me to god.

    1. SlowBro904

      Biswajit the fact that you’re here talking about it tells me you do not want to.

      Do you remember the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis? He was actually promised by God to receive honor but went through MANY years of toil in slavery in prison. Just where are you along that same path?

      Do you remember the story of David? Anointed king but chased to the caves by a bloodthirsty tyrant. What cave are you in today?

      He doesn’t promise this life will be easy, but He promises to be with us in the midst of it.

      One more thing: If you think your prayers aren’t being heard, ask yourself, am I sinning? He says in His word that He will not listen to the wicked. Have you ever taken the Good Person test? Google it, and see how you do. I failed :-)

  8. SlowBro

    Mabel, I guess you’re seeing a pre-written prayer to pray out for Jacob? Your best way is just talking to your heavenly Father like you would a good earthly dad. There’s not much formula for talking to an earthly dad. You show respect and leave the decision-making to him (e.g. we don’t want to order him around.) You appeal instead of demand. How much more our earthly Father?

    That’s why Jesus began his model prayer, “Our father.” Go have a look at Jesus’ model prayer for elements to bring into your own prayer for Jacob then lift him up before the throne of grace and plead with Him to show Jacob His glory, glory which transforms. Pray the Scriptures, too. Those always enrich my prayers with joy and authority.

    I’m lifting up Jacob.

  9. Mabel

    Please pray for Jacob suffering from severe depression after death of pet thanks what prayer should I say I read the scriptures on depression for him.thanks.

  10. Kathleen

    Trish (((hugs))). I’ve been there so many times. You do have someone. You have me. And Faith Mechanic. And God. You can’t feel Him but He is there. He is closer to you now than times when you feel His presence. He wouldn’t abandon you. He promised. And He keeps His promises.

    These feelings are painful and traumatic. You need to be kind to yourself. Go for a walk alone. Find a quiet place to sit and talk to Him. Know that these thoughts will pass but you need to take care of yourself. Take care of yourself the way you take care off your kids. Give yourself good food. Say kind things to yourself. Put yourself to bed early. Read a funny book. (Buy Lunatics by Dave Barry-or get it from library. It’s laugh out loud funny and an easy read). Nurture yourself. Take a bubble bath after the kids are in bed.

    When things are too hard, stop and pray for courage and strength. God always answered our prayers.

    Love to you. Praying for you.

  11. SlowBro

    Hi Trish! Glad you talked to someone about your unwanted thoughts, even if online/anonymously. Being a parent myself I understand the concern of sharing your issues then coming under threat of having your children taken away. I’ve faced that concern more than once. I even battled with an issue all alone for 13 years then finally decided to tell a brother in Christ. What a relief that was! I’m not alone. I’m praying you find that one person you can trust with your life, and talk to them so you’re not going through this alone.

    Yours sounds like it may be a rare case of demonic oppression. (Not possession but oppression.) In the Bible, it’s clear that the majority of our issues come from our own sin. Most of the time the call is to repent. But on a few rare occasions the right thing to do is tell those demons to go away in the name of Jesus. I’ve from time-to-time battled the same unwanted thoughts tempting me to suicide. When they come I know what to do. I just say out loud, “Demon, in the name of Jesus, be gone.” That’s all. No holy water, no jumping around and screaming, no weirdness. Just tell it in the name of Jesus to be gone.

    And bam, the suicidal thought is gone. Then I keep away the wrong thoughts through frequent meditation upon God’s Word. Jesus said the demon was driven out of the person, but when he came back he found the man empty, swept, and put in order, so he went and found seven other demons. So fill your head with Bible. Listen to it, play it, memorize it, put it on your walls, put it on your mirror in the morning, have it on your mind day and night. I’m terrible at memorizing anything, so I got some Scripture memory music and BOY does that work good. You know how it is that you can still remember music from high school? Because music assists in memorization. There’s some free ones out there so Google it and see.

    Lifting you up. May you find a confidant to speak with, may you meditate on God’s Word day and night, and may you no longer be tormented by the evil one.

  12. Trish

    I’m Trish, a believer, a mother and I’m tired, I have been battling many, many unwanted thoughts for a while now and I fight so hard because I want to live, but I’m tired of fighting! When will Satan leave? I feel like I can’t talk to anyone around me with the fear of being judged and no one really able to help me with my thoughts, I know God but I no longer feel his presence in my heart. I know he’s here, I know he’s answering my prayers, I just want to feel the joy again. I say that it could be post partom depression but I don’t want to be medicated and I don’t want my child taken from me, please someone help me find happiness again. And remove these thoughts from my life!

  13. Mattheartin25

    I am 11 and I live in a relationship with God but I have considered suicide many times but each time being stopped by a lack of materials (rope, knife ect) How do I get rid of these thoughts of suicide?

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      Matt – We love you and are praying for you. I want you to realize that the times when you ‘considered’ suicide, the thoughts were from the Devil. He is a liar and a destroyer. Please don’t let him lie to you and destroy you. You have great pain in your life. I hear it and I feel it. Don’t let the Devil use that pain to hurt you further. Suicide is not the answer that he is telling you it is.

      There are other good solutions. You just can’t seen them now. The Devil is blinding you to them. There is hope for a happy life. You just can’t see it because again the Devil is hiding it from you. Maybe you are thinking that nobody cares. That is a lie. God cares. I care. There are plenty of others who care and love you. You can’t see and feel that too, but we are all real and we love you.

      If you need to talk to someone, give me a call. I would love to talk to you, or you can talk to a wonderful counselor in our church. I sent an email with my numbers.

      Again Matt, the suicide thoughts are from the Devil. Read these two articles – You Cannot ‘Out Think’ the Devil But You Can ‘Out Speak’ Him, and Depression Is a Spirit – It Must Be Fought with the Word of God. God’s word is able to free you and help you. It is also able to make you happy on the inside – for real, no fake stuff. We do love you. Call us or someone please. God really is big enough.

  14. Dj

    Hey everyone!

    I wanted to let you know that I’m still here and kicking!

    Your comments and posts were a blessing to me.

    I’m still in pain and I still have doubts, but I’m not in crisis like before.

    Thank you so much for taking the time to type those words. They ment more than you know.

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      Dj – We are so so glad. We love you. Keep meditating on the scriptures. They will change you and change what you can see. The more hope you can see the more hope you can have. We love you. rex

  15. Margaret

    I ventured here from the hopelessness and depression topics. Although I don’t believe I would ever take my life, it goes through my mind at times and offers me moments of comfort as an option. Many bouts of depression in my life. The one now is one of the most painful. My son’s wife is leaving him, and for some reason, I can’t wrap my brain around it. Especially difficult when I look at their precious 18-month old son. I believe that some losses are as devastating if not more so than death.

  16. Steven liaw

    Hold it there! Never take your own life. Life is worth living for sure as the Lord has promised us that He gives not only life but life in abundant. A depressed condition is temporary. The bout will get over with medication and treatment like ECT and you’ld praise the Lord for you had been holding on the ‘devilush’ suicidal attempt. If there isn’t anything for you to live on, you could at least live as the salt and light of the Lord in this world and do good to others to glorify His name! There’s HOPE only when you’re ALIVE & SHINE!

  17. Kathleen


    Please stop and think. God wouldn’t ask you to break one of the ten commandments. I know you’re in pain. I also know that He has compassion for you. He has so much love for you. He didn’t bring pain and suffering into the world. It’s not His will that you live in pain. However, if you are still alive it’s because He isn’t done with you yet. You have something left to give- and it isn’t a broken heart for your loving husband.

    You have no right to inflict that kind of pain on him. You have no right to do that. Would you tell him in advance what you were planning? How do you think he’ll react? If you can’t tell him, face to face, you can’t be a coward and go behind his back and inflict such horrific pain on him.

    He wouldn’t be “comfortable”. He’d be filled with sorrow, grief, emotional distress and pain- not to mention constant regret that he wasn’t able to prevent it.

    I know it sounds harsh and it IS harsh. You have no right to do it. And God has not given you permission.

    Talk to a priest. The devil is the one whispering in your ear.

  18. Theresal58

    I have been praying and praying and I think God is OK with me wanting to kill myself. I have emptied my soul of any longings but for God. I have no regrets about the past and no regrets about any future that might be out there. I only see and want to be with God.

    I am 59 , bedridden with Late Stage Lyme Disease and suffer 24 hours a day. My husband is an angel of a caregiver but I want him to have happiness, which he can’t have while I am here. I have no hope for a cure and no hope to be relieved of the pain. I could live like this for another 20 years. All insurance companies refuse to give long term treatment for Late Stage Lyme Disease therefore all our medical expenses are put of pocket. If I kill myself now, my husband will have enough left to comfortably live out his life.

    I have asked for God’s compassion and love. I have asked the Virgin Mary to forgive me and take me in her arms like a babe. I pray almost day on this and am sure God is telling me it’s ok. I believe God can send you a message that’s it’s ok to leave.

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      Theresal58- I agree, it isn’t God talking to you. It is the Devil. I only get a small glimpse of your pain and discomfort but killing oneself is not the answer. It is not the answer for your husband either.

      First – make sure you are saved, read – Born Again and Salvation and pray the prayer out loud from your heart.

      Afterward, get your wonderful husband to read the Gospels to you. All four, all the way through, then do it again. Get as much of God inside of you as you can. No offense, don’t talk to Mary; talk to Jesus. He has your answer. We love you and are praying for you. Rex

  19. Lindsay

    Thinking of you precious dj. Please let us know your okay, Praise Jesus the one and only True King forever and ever

  20. Lindsay

    Beloved Macie, God alone is your Rock and He is an All Mighty and jealous God. He is worthy of all the praise, for” He loves the wicked and the righteous, He rains on the just and unjust. ” God is allowing this so you will turn to Him alone as your hope and strength. I am certain of this. As a sister in Christ whom carries genuine love for you, I would rather help you with the Truth, than hinder you with sweet words. As you have come looking for God at this site, so continue in your longing and search. He says “search for Me with all your heart and there you will find Me. ” on faith, glorify Jesus with your lips, grumble no longer, for this is displeasing to God. I assure you you are capable of loving God more than this man, I ask you to declare this decision as I have done myself and this is when I saved my own marriage! And my husband! Which everyone said was “unsaveable”. It all started with this beautiful turning point of utter hopelessness where you are now and making a decision to pick up my bible and search for my Master by faith alone and there I found my true Savior and the bond that I had always longed for. And realized He was there the whole time. Now I live in peace and the devil has no hold over me any longer. Jesus and the Holy inerrant Word of God has set me free! My heart is delighted in the Lord my Savior and I will never turn back. It all started with picking up my bible and breaking the stronghold. And the faithful Lord as He has promised has set me free. Praise Honor and glory be to Him forever and ever! Love in Christ sister, Lindsay

  21. Sandy

    You are right! Although I have been as deep in the woods as Lonelyman, God eventually did give me the victory without any direct effort on my part. One day I just noticed that all that lust was gone. I don’t know how it happened or why it took so long to happen. I begged God to help me so many times, and did not find relief. What happened to me was that I just kept pursuing things of God. I focused on my church activities, singing devotional music, prayer, Bible study, and I gave up those things which the Bible said to give up. Some were easy and some were hard. I prayed that the Lord would help me grow in Him. My faith grew, and the more I read about miracles, the more I believed in them. I believe that God does do miracles in our day and age, and I believe that if I needed one, He would do one for me! I stopped focusing on myself, and I focused on evangelism. I want to lead others to the miracles I have experienced from God’s interventions.

    I like all you have written, and I just want to add that the actual goal Christians strive for, is to do away with sin completely, which will prepare us for heaven. This is the meaning of “righteousness.” This word was used to describe Noah and Lot. They were not perfect people. As Genesis tells, after the flood, Noah got drunk. Being righteous does not mean we can never fall. It just means that we follow God in all aspects of our lives, and when we do fall, we repent immediately. Heaven is not going to have beer or cigarettes or pornography, lying, stealing, or pain. The fruits of these are not good. These works will be destroyed by God (2 Pet 3:10) so that the Universe can be restored to the perfect order that existed before Lucifer fell. Sin is transgression of the law (1 Jn 3:4). The wages of sin is death (Rom 6:23). The perfect order that God’s kingdom will have does not have pain or death or fear (Rev 21:4). So, like you said, God gives us perfect deliverance and victory. He transforms us slowly or rapidly, as He pleases. Lonelyman, have faith in the process and just keep turning toward God in everything you do.

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  22. Sandra M.

    Dear Lonelyman,

    I know the Christian philosophy is to deny sexual feelings and abstain completely, but its this Puritan way that has made me crazy for many years. I now believe that God created sex and He gave a rather abundant sexuality to many people. He alone knows His reasons. It can be a great gift if you are with the right person. Of course it may lead to a baby at times too. This is all part of Gods plan. Ive been through a similar battle with sexuality. Being Christian is not like a light switch that goes on and off. I used to think it was, and thats why I ended up suicidal many times. But now I give my whole self to Christ, even my faults too. He will work His transformation of me in His time and at His speed. If I dont have His explanation now, then I trust I will find it later. Love yourself as He loves you always. Believe you are saved because you are saved by the blood of the Lamb. The only condition for that is that you believe He died for you and you accept His sacrifice. Then keep His laws because you are grateful to Him for what He did for you. We are not saved by keeping the law. Salvation is a free gift. God knows we will have difficulties with the law. Thats why we have the new covenant of grace. Using pornography is not Gods way but sometimes it helps people cope with sexual feelings. Im sure that to God, its preferable than committing rape which would be harming another person. Jesus once said that even our thoughts can be the same as committing the act of adultery itself. Well who could live up to that? No one! He knows this, and yet He loves us. So forgive yourself. When you let go of guilt it will be easier to stay on track.

    And also be aware that pornography addiction can lead to impotence. It gets so intense that suddenly the sight of your mate is no longer enough. So for your marriage sake, limit use as much as possible to avoid becoming desensitized.

    1. Christopher de Vidal

      LonelyMan, I want to slightly disagree with Sandra M.’s well-meaning advice. Pornography, and even having lustful thoughts for others, IS conquerable. Jesus did it. Remember: He was fully man. I did it, by the same Spirit that lives within Jesus. Many others have. There can be victory.

      God knows sexual urges do not go away if you suppress or ignore them; rather, they are a blessing. That’s why He gave us husbands and wives. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Prov 5:19

      And God knows we will have difficulty with the immensely high standards of His Law. As a solution, He didn’t give us pornography; that’s man’s answer. He gave us Jesus. So you’ve blown it for the 8,479th time. What does that prove? That He is an UNLIMITED fountain of forgiveness.

      Satan speaks in generalities: “You’re such a failure.” The Spirit speaks in specifics: “Five minutes ago, when you looked at that woman and thought about her sexually: Go quickly put that under the blood and walk with me again.” You blow it again tonight? I want you to immediately place it under the blood once again, and continue to walk with Jesus. Fail again tomorrow night? Place it under the blood. The next night? Place it under the blood. Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! Yet grace abounds to overflowing for those who fall into sin again and again. Grace abounds!!

      I echo Sandra M.’s advice: Give your whole self to Christ, even your faults too. He will work His transformation of in His time and at His speed. Do not withhold from God the pleasure of showing mercy to the greatly undeserving like you and me. Do not assume He is weary of seeking forgiveness, for that implies He is weak and limited. Keep going to Him again and again and again. One day, you might find as I do that it does not hold as much attraction as it used to.

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      I agree with Christopher de Vidal – We can, and must, overcome in Jesus Name. A little bit of lust will not keep us from more lust. One aspect of sin is ‘transgression.’ Transgression is the going over a boundary, or crossing a line. It is doing what you are not supposed to do and being where you are not supposed to be. The strength of it is the continual crossing of a line – always going further. Rebellion always pushes boundaries. This is the terrible aspect of sin, the current sin level is never enough. It always wants more. You can’t negotiate with sin and the Devil. You can only break its power in Jesus Name, be cleansed by the blood of Jesus, and go on.

      The more you give in the stronger it gets. The more you victoriously resist the weaker it gets. You control the door to your life and heart. Don’t let evil and disobedience in. A little bit goes a long way. Pornography is not so much about sex as it is about false strength, anger, and control. It makes a man feel like he is a tough controlling man, but in reality it emasculates him and makes him weaker and weaker. The false intensity of it will hinder a true real sex life. It is a silent killer of manhood and spirituality.

      Believe God for the grace of God to help you. Confess the word of God. Try to praise God as much as you can when you are tempted. You cannot think of something but you can think about something else. That is one reason why AA wants them to call someone immediately when they are tempted to drink. Get someone to help talk you back from the ledge. To be louder than the voice of lust and destruction.

      And don’t let the guilt of a failure hold you back from receiving God’s grace and moving on. Do it every time, a thousand and one times. Don’t give up in God’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness. We love you. Rex

  23. LonelyMan

    If there is anyone out there, please pray for me.

    I am a 30-something yr old Christian (or someone who bounces between thinking he is a Christian and not) from NC. I made many mistakes early on in my relationship pre-marriage (basically lying about previous physical relationships and implying I was pure when I wasn’t). Since then, I have lied many more times about other things and my relationship has been completely tarnished by the two that went before it as well as my dishonesty. There is so much ingrained hurt and bitterness and anger, I can never be the husband I should be. I am a mess. I really want God to help, but I just can’t get through to Him. I struggle on the quiet with pornography. My pastor knows this, but no one else. I am a complete mess. Please help me Lord. Help me.

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    2. Christopher de Vidal

      LonelyMan I went from wanting to start my own porn website to no longer even having impure thoughts. I memorized a small verse and quote it the second I begin to experience a temptation. If you don’t have a verse, Matthew 5:8 is a good one. If He redeemed me, He can redeem you.

      He gives grace to the humble. O how I love the joy of experiencing Jesus when I take the sin I fell into for the 8,974th time and wash it under the limitless blood and walk once again with the radiant Savior. Never be afraid to take sin to Him, for in so doing you imply He either has limits to His grace and mercy, or is stingy with it. He is slowwwwwwwwwwww to anger and abounding in steadfast love. The inexhaustible supply of kindness of our Lord and Savior!!

      His glory is magnified through big sinners like us. The bigger the sinner, the greater His love appears. Had you only sinned 3 times it would be enough for hell, and it would be scandalous that Jesus died for you. But wow our God looks so more spectacular when He loves the one who’d blown it for the 8,974th time! Shall we sin that grace may abound? May it not be so. But think “God-centered” forgiveness and you’ll never grow reluctant of taking your sins to Him.

      Isn’t that “gospel”? (Good news?)

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  24. Sandy

    Isaiah 49:15-20

    But Zion said, “The Lord has forsaken me,
    And my Lord has forgotten me.”

    “Can a woman forget her nursing child,
    And not have compassion on the son of her womb?
    Surely they may forget,
    Yet I will not forget you.
    See, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands;
    Your walls are continually before Me.
    Your sons shall make haste;
    Your destroyers and those who laid you waste
    Shall go away from you.
    Lift up your eyes, look around and see;
    All these gather together and come to you.
    As I live,” says the Lord,
    “You shall surely clothe yourselves with them all as an ornament,
    And bind them on you as a bride does.
    “For your waste and desolate places,
    And the land of your destruction,
    Will even now be too small for the inhabitants;
    And those who swallowed you up will be far away.
    The children you will have,
    After you have lost the others,
    Will say again in your ears,
    ‘The place is too small for me;
    Give me a place where I may dwell.’
    Then you will say in your heart,
    ‘Who has begotten these for me,
    Since I have lost my children and am desolate,
    A captive, and wandering to and fro?
    And who has brought these up?
    There I was, left alone;
    But these, where were they?’”

    Thus says the Lord God:

    “Behold, I will lift My hand in an oath to the nations,
    And set up My standard for the peoples;
    They shall bring your sons in their arms,
    And your daughters shall be carried on their shoulders.
    Kings shall be your foster fathers,
    And their queens your nursing mothers;
    They shall bow down to you with their faces to the earth,
    And lick up the dust of your feet.
    Then you will know that I am the Lord,
    For they shall not be ashamed who wait for Me.”

    …..For I will contend with him who contends with you,
    And I will save your children.
    …..All flesh shall know
    That I, the Lord, am your Savior,
    And your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob.”

  25. Sandy

    Isaiah 44:8
    “Do not fear, nor be afraid; Have I not told you from that time, and declared it? You are My witnesses. Is there a God besides Me? Indeed there is no other Rock; I know not one.’”

    Put the Lord first, and all things will follow.

    Proverbs 3:5-6
    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”

    If God were to restore you to this man, it may not go the way you expect. Perhaps the Lord wants to give you something better. I used to feel that my man was everything to me. It went to the point of idolatry. No man is worthy of being idolized. Only God is worthy. Now I know that humans will often fail us; but God never will. I learned also to see myself through His eyes, rather than through any other person’s eyes. He is loving and stable. He will care for you. And don’t forget that divorce laws are extremely favorable to the mother. Financially, you will be OK for that reason. Thank the Lord for His gift of children, which He has entrusted you with. If your husband loved God, he would feel a sense of responsibility to his family, but he does not. This makes him a grand failure in my eyes, and in God’s eyes too. Serve the Lord with all your heart, and raise with love the children he has committed to you. Do the Lord’s work, and He will repay you. He said,

    “He who overcomes shall inherit all things.” Rev 21:7 “….choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.” Deut 30:19 “I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters.” 2nd Cor 6:17-18. God bless you and your children. I will pray for you all.

  26. Macie

    My marriage is failing my husband wants to leave me for another woman wants to leave me and my children alone I am currently expecting another child I know not what to do I want to end my life everything feels so upside down I don’t know what to do I no longer feel a need to be here without my husband he is my rock he is my everything. I want to end my life tonight something told me look for prayers for suicidal thoughts it brought me here I need God to restore my marriage and to come into my husbands heart please help us

    1. Christopher de Vidal

      Macie take hope. The verse that gets me through dark trials is Isaiah 43:2: ” When you pass through the waters, I [the God of the universe] will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.” (Isaiah 43:2 ESV)

      I have quoted myself that one again and again. May the God of all hope sanctify you completely.

      Lifting you up,
      Christopher de Vidal

  27. Sandy

    Dear DJ,

    I have two friends who are prayer warriors. I have asked them to pray for you. Everything I have asked them to pray for has been resolved for the better in my own life. I will pray for you too.
    I also have a suicide prevention website. It is not as exhaustive as this site, but what it offers is my personal story. I was suicidal for more than 20 years, but I survived and am very happy now. It is I know what you mean about the darkness being on the inside. We all have some…. well, it can be beat! I pray that you will persevere. The Lord’s will is that you live. If He wanted to take you, He would have already done so. Just think: Maybe your future holds something very important. Perhaps you will save someone else’s life. We all have influence, and none of us can see the future. Have faith that you need to be here. The Lord needs your service. You are His hands and feet. You are His voice. What if no one else will speak for Him? Would you speak for Him?


  28. Dj

    I wrote my suicide note tonight. It was four pages long. I wasn’t quite ready to do it, but I spelled out my reasons for when it was time.

    I did one last ditch effort. I googled, “Prayers for when you are suicidal.” This was the first link.

    I have at least one more day now. I will keep doing that, hopefully. Taking one more day. Hopefully God will take away this weight; this pain. Hopefully God will make me feel worth.

    I am on antidepressants. I have a support system. I need prayer. I need hope. I need God. The problem is not external. It is not something that I or anyone else can solve. It has to come from inside and above.

    Please, pray for me. Call on God to heal me. I will read these scriptures again at least one more day. It is giving me another day.

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      DJ – We love you and we are praying for you. Yes, it all comes from the inside – first the pain and the darkness, then the release and the light. The darkness cannot fight the light, just like any darkness immediately goes away when light appears, but you must let the light in.

      Even if you don’t like it, or thing that it is doing anything READ THE SCRIPTURES AND STORIES. Hope will seep into your heart. There is hope all around you but the darkness won’t let you see it. Then, it lies to you and tells you that the only answer is more darkness and death.

      Pray the following prayer, loud enough so that you can hear it:

      “Heavenly Father, I acknowledge that you are God, and I am not. I am tired of being my own god, please forgive me. I have been disobedient and I am now sorry for my sins. I believe that Jesus Christ died for me and paid for my evil deeds. Come now into my heart, live inside of me, and be my personal Lord and Savior. I turn away from evil and I choose your will and your life.

      I believe with my heart and I say with my mouth that you, Jesus Christ, are now my Lord and my Savior. I believe you died on the cross for me, and when you were raised again, I was raised with you. I totally commit myself to obeying you everyday, for the rest of my life. Fill me with your Spirit and your power. In Jesus name, it is done! Thank you Jesus.”

      Read these pages – SalvationEveryone Dies – EveryoneScriptures Against DepressionScriptures Against Hopelessness. I love you and we are praying for you. Send me an email if you desire. It is on our about page. Rex

  29. Sandy

    Dear Tirzah,

    Believing in God is a decision. Once you make that decision, you can ask Him to reveal Himself in your life through blessings and answered prayer. He is waiting for each of His children to ask Him. Remember to ask Him for help when your situation looks impossible to fix. You will see help come. What is not possible with man is possible with God. Even ask Him for help with small things, like when you lose your keys. HE knows where your keys are. He is everywhere. Connect to his omniscience and you will know where the keys are.

    I do not advise to make any human being a god, because human beings are so changeable. They are not stable. They let us down sooner or later. God will never let you down; He will always love you.

    Commit yourself to the Lord. The more you do, the greater will be His workings in your life. Believe that He is a God who is on your side and that He is a kind and giving Father. Believe, and you will see His works.

    There are many bad things going on in the world, including deaths of people we love. Just understand that He never meant for us to experience these things. It is only because of the entrance of sin into the world. Humans chose sin and “all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” God is giving us free choice. It is a test. What will His people do with their freedom? The last thing He wants is for us to choose to worship another god, person, money, things, etc. None of these are worthy of worship. Only God is worthy. You must choose to either be for Him or against Him. Anything bad that happens in this world is because of Satan, sin, and free choice. “We have been made a spectacle to the whole universe, to angels as well as to human beings.” 1 Cor 4:9 We are involved in a great controversy between Christ and Satan. Satan insists that sin is true freedom. Christ insists that His laws are the way to happiness. The Ten Commandments teach us how to love. The first four teach us how to love God and the last six teach us how to love our neighbor. Love is the letter of the law. In other words, the spirit of the law is to love God and others. As a Christian, we follow the law willingly because we love Christ for saving us. We obey His law because there is wisdom behind all of it. Satan might say, “Stealing is freedom that brings happiness.” But does stealing really work? Even if it makes the stealer happy, it makes others unhappy. God’s idea, “Thou shall not steal,” makes everyone happy.

    Satan is a real being. He used to be an angel in heaven, called Lucifer. He wanted to be worshipped instead of the angels worshipping God. He tried to usurp the throne of Christ and he deceived many of the angels into following him. You can read about the battle in Revelation 12. It says that Lucifer was thrown out of heaven with all the angels that followed him. Christ threw them all to the Earth. They are here with us. Satan was the “ruler of this world,” until Christ took it back by dying on the cross. When He died, He said, “It is finished.” The future destiny of the world is now secured: It will be a world with Christ and His laws. He died to set us free. But right now, we are wrapping up Earth’s history, and sin is showing itself for what it is. It is lawlessness and it is a disease on mankind. Sin is causing the Earth’s people to spiral lower and lower and lower. Things will not get better until Jesus comes. But things can be better for you because the Lord promised to give us the “peace that passes all understanding.” Step into the light of Christ and He will give you this peace. Commit yourself, your body, your allegiance, your money, your family, and your destiny. This life is short. The Lord promises you an eternity of joy. “For He who overcomes will inherit all things.” The Lord prepared the Lake of Fire for the Devil and his angels (demons). It was never prepared for humans. Unfortunately many will end up there because they have chosen Satan when they chose to worship money or other gods, or whatever idol they love. Choose Christ. He loves you and is waiting for you. Decide to believe His word. He has left you a love letter (the Bible). Read it. The promises are all true. Job once said, “Even if he slays me, yet will I trust Him!” I will pray for you. May God speak to your heart.

  30. Sandy

    Dear Frank,

    I too had an abusive childhood and my mother was always raging because she had untreated schizophrenia. I felt the same way you do now, even from the age of 5 years old. I suffered severe depression, and there were no medications back then to help. Medications fix my chemical imbalance that I was born with, but healing is more than that. It was a lot of effort I put into my recovery. Now I am a nurse and I try to help people with psychiatric disorders. I even have my own website for suicide prevention: . I believe there is a healing verse within the Bible that we all just have to find. I read the whole Bible and all of it was good, but the one verse that helped me was, “For you are greatly beloved.” It’s in the book of Daniel. When I read that, it sunk in: God loves me. I had spent my whole life viewing myself through the eyes of my mother who despised me half the time. But from that moment that I read that verse, I made a choice: I decided that I would view myself through the eyes of a loving God instead. His love is stable and unchanging. This decision was what healed my self-esteem. I went from hating myself with a passion to loving myself, having mercy on myself, and creating a good life for myself. I believe you can do this too. You did not say anything about self-hatred, so I don’t know if self-esteem is a problem for you, but it seems that loneliness is the big thing. You can solve this problem by changing what you do. Do something different, then try something else different, until you find something that helps you to connect with other people. Love others as God loves them. Don’t wait to be loved; just send love out. Love is a gift when you give it. It fills you up when you give!

    I did many things to overcome depression. I spent more than 30 years in depression, but I am never suicidal any more. I am happy all the time. God can and will heal you too, but He needs you to work with Him and try as hard as you can to solve all the puzzles in your life. One thing I did was to admit I have depression and get medication for it. I was told that I would need to take medication for the rest of my life, most likely. I agreed to this and have accepted my need. The anti-depression medication brings my energy to a normal level. From this better sense of well-being, I felt life’s pitfalls and life’s joys. The medicine does not take away situational feelings. It’s not a happy pill. It gave me the energy to function. I exercised because this helps depression considerably. I was completely disabled even so, and I could not work. But the answer is: I did whatever I COULD do. I socialized, went to 12-step meetings, sang in a choir, went to parks. That was about the best I could do, but little by little, I got somewhere. I learned social skills, I learned to love, I learned to be playful. I gained occupational skills. (I taught myself to touch-type.) I took suggestions of other people. One suggestion was to pray and thank the Lord for giving me another day. This was so weird and I didn’t really feel thankful at first, but I did it anyway. I read the whole Bible 3 times. I had compulsions and never believed I could overcome them, but I did. The release from compulsions just happened along the way. Now I am free.

    Make small goals for yourself. Find a charity that means something to you. Charity organizations always need people to help them make visits to people, do officework, give out literature, man the phone hotlines, etc. You will meet good people doing this. You can find a sense of mission.

    Most of all, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade! Turn your life around and make your experiences work for you. After all, since you know what it’s like to be a confused battered child, then you definitely have a sympathy for other children and adults who are in the same situation. Do you realize that there are many battered women who wish for a husband or friend like you? You can provide love, stability, kindness, and emotional support. You don’t need money. You just need you! I made lemonade out of my life’s pain. I am a psychiatric nurse! I am a choir singer who sings God’s praises louder than anyone else because I am so grateful for all that God has done to help me. I learned to play new musical instruments. I changed careers several times until I found my forte. I went on dating websites and found my husband, a most incredible man who was never appreciated by his first wife. OKcupid was my favorite website because it’s truly free and there are thousands of people on it. And when I found that man, I showered him with love in every way I could. I massaged his back, listened to his feelings, cooked and cleaned for him, etc. When I found my beloved church, I volunteered to help with every seminar and evangelistic event. Today I am loved by so many people that I can hardly keep up with all the relationships. The Lord fills our cup until it overflows. Just ask, and He will give to you knowledge, ideas, and people. Ask Him to send you the right person. The right person will come, so get ready. Believe that that person is somewhere in the world right now, and you just haven’t met yet. Close your eyes and feel their presence and believe. It is time to prepare for their entrance into your life. Practice excellent hygiene and put your house in order. Show that you know how to care for yourself in every way, and she will know that you can care for her too.

    The Lord says, “I will take away your heart of stone, and I will give you a heart of flesh.” If we are to have a heart of flesh, that means that we will experience pain sometimes, but we will also have the capacity for joy, and the potential to really live. I think most people are desensitized by the media. Murders occur on the TV screen and no one bats an eye. But a heart of flesh will feel the pain of a child of God being lost. It cannot be entertainment because it is the breaking of God’s commandment “Thou shall not murder.” There will be no murder in heaven. There will be no pain; only joy. I visualize this “better world.” My heart is there. And my heart is with God’s people. Depression makes the heart numb and shut down. Pray for this heart of flesh, which is already inside you. Commit yourself to the Lord: your emotions, your body, and your allegience. I will pray for you. You’re going to be happy. Just work with the process. God is there for you! He loves you more than you know.

  31. Kathleen

    Dear Frank

    It is NOT God’s will that you feel so miserable and depressed. God doesn’t want you to feel defeated and alone. If you’re still breathing, you still have work to do in this life. You may need anti-depressants (they do help) and to talk to a therapist to help work through all the things that are hurting you. You can find a Christian therapist (this helped me a lot after my child died).

    It took me years to dig my way out of a dark depression. I still have ups and downs but I’m doing better.

    A priest once said to me “Just because you have a suicidal thought doesn’t mean you have to entertain it. You can say ‘I choose NOT to entertain this thought. It’s not from God.”. The devil would love to see you fail. To commit suicide is to lose hope in God’s love and mercy. You don’t want that.

    You’re close to God. He loves you. Truly He does. He wants you to be happy.

    Sometimes, you have to search for that happiness and embrace it wherever you find it.

    Spend time in the sun-it will help your mood. Stay away from music, tv shows, movies, or friends who will bring you down. Open the bible and read the whole page. God will speak to you there.

    When depression and anxiety attacks you, cast that devil aside. He has no power over you. Christ died so that you could be free of those demons. So, cast them out. Sprinkle blessed salt in doorways and windows. Have your house blessed.

    I’m praying for you, Frank. You’re going to make it. You are. (((hugs)))

  32. FRIEDA

    Dear Frank of Georgia, my heart goes out to you, such pain is a terrible burden, one only a good person can bear with out becoming hard of heart, and though you think you’ve given up you’re still calling out for help from God and others, I wish I could do more but I will pray for you, I pray you find a soulmate, but I think for that to happen you have to have an open heart so that love can find you, I know this is the hardest thing in the world for you after all that’s happened to you but just know you are a good person and God loves you so please don’t give up on yourself because you deserve to be happy.

  33. John Franklin

    I was raised in violence and anger and have strived to do the next right thing most of my life, I confess I am a sinner and know I’m not worthy of Gods mercy, but HE still helps me through most things, but the ONE I ask for is giving me a soulmate. I suffer and feel cursed by my extreme depression and PTSD from my police and military service in the past, but know in my heart I’ve done more good than bad in my 43 years, but still feel hopeless and sad every single day. I just want to eat a bottle of pills and go to sleep so the pain of life will stop eating away at my very core. If you believe this sometimes I pray to God to take me now, I’m ready and tired of this life, really! If your sincere here about listening to these comments, Please, Please say something encouraging so I may find solace somewhere in my meaningless life that I wish would end. I’m flat broke and live alone and I’m tired of existing and want the joy that others share. I’ve been betrayed, lied to, screwed over and I’ve basically given up along time ago and feel my end is near. I’ve lost faith in humanity with all the suffering and tragedy I see and hear about daily. I even tell God that this world is evil and I don’t blame him one bit for destroying this poisoned earth, please pray for me that FRANK in Georgia will know peace and love once again . I really don’t want to die with the horrors, disappointments, sadness and anger in my soul. Thank you very much for listening. FDA

  34. tirzah adams

    perhaps im looking in the wrong place, but how should i be perceiving these scriptures if i dont believe in God?
    I used to but there is nothing no way that will convince me he/she is real anymore, bad things have happened that i just dont think a god could live with, or exist for that matter, for such bad things to happen to the people i love, So then what am i to count on to guide and help me, what am i to have faith in? I hardly have faith in people anymore, do i try and see my child as my god? Im not trying to contradict or question the faith but the scriptures are so poetic and they would be helpful to me yet i have no way of believing it myself. Is there some way this could relate to people who dont have a belief? p.s I saw my creators, my parents, as god, i was lucky enough to think that after i lost faith, so much wisdom knowledge and goodness, could everyone have their own god if they wanted to?

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